Friends

After the catchup with my Friend in Thursday, something was revived in me- the fact that I truly have true friends. I have only just created the gap of not reaching out regularly. 

The excitement was so bundled up in me that it responded louder than my alarm clock even the next morning. I got in the groove of that level of excitement where all I can do is talk. 

Wait it's Friday, how would update the process model I'm working on, if I'm this excited. Luckily for me I got lots of meetings scheduled for the day, so I just skyped away. 

When I could get some break, I picked up the my new 3m white board from Tesco, tore off the nylon wrap and starting writing on it that I'm grateful for friends, and an attempt to write the names of 30 friends ensued. My beloved Wife who is also working from home today, stretched to see the board and the first name she was looking for was... Guess? Hers! She wanted to see her name on the list, and not only on the list but the first on the list. 

I 100% agreed she is my friend but my argument of not including spouse or sibling on the list didn't sell. So I had to bump her in, and to be true to my self include my immediate elder brother too, my closest friend in the Oduale family. Oh! My Wife is no Oduale too (so he is now the second closest in the Oduale clan). 

Anyway, my list stretched to 33, and I'm afraid that I might be missing someone that should importantly be on the list. Well, if I remember and my Wife confirms that person is truly my friend then I can include the name. Oh yes! She is not only my best friend, she is also my Friendship Auditor. It simple because if my Wife doesn't know a friend of mind either by face or by continuous mention of names in one of life history stories, then that person is not my friend. 

I wish I could rank and mention the top three names but honestly, my Friends have been so good and gracious, I can't easily stratify. Except for maybe duration or season of life. 

Please find friends if you don't have enough, and when you find true friends, do well to keep them by keeping in touch. 

Let me drop a wise gem that helps identify who qualifies to be picked as friends and who doesn't. "A friend is someone who can share jokes with" not from me, a wise sage- @PGeeman- said so. And by extension of this definition, I believe a friend is someone who you can share laughter, pain and vulnerabilities with. 

It's time to quit  reading this and take the action to find your existing or new friends.